At least, when I told h what he'd asked, THIS time (for once) my h is in agreement with me. And the answer is still NO, you cannot spend the night at your girlfriend's house. He said "I don't want you to think bad of me and of her and think we are having sex or something stupid. " I told him we don't think bad of either one of you. We just don't want either one of you to put yourselves in a position where things could get out of control very quickly and you not be ready to deal with something like that. He said okay, I know you want the best for me, and didn't argue any farther. Then we went out to breakfast as a family which was nice.

It is so true what I read years ago when he was still a baby - something like "being a mother is like having your heart walking around outside of your body."