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Old Dec 26, 2015, 04:31 PM
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Originally Posted by pathway2FREEDOM View Post
Thank you for your honesty and insight Atyp. I have a question (I know again) for you: would you say you feel numb, unless there is drama and chaos? If so, would that be why you cause chaos and drama, when there could be a peaceful, fair and rationale alternatives? or is it that you just feel/think that you way it right for you and eff everyone else?

More importantly, say you were in a vindictive phase (were your empathy is completely lacking), what would help you see the other point of view, and just plain their lives, and factor that in to making a workable plan for all concern, this is related to family/friend, a more serious plans? I need tips to reach through to these people.

Numb? Certainly not. Most of the time I'm pretty content even though slightly irritated pretty constantly. Whether or not there's drama and chaos doesn't matter to me unless someone is dragging my name into it. I don't consciously plan to cause chaos most of the time but I do tend to say and do things that are interpreted by others as inflammatory and harmful so therefore yes it is fair to say I cause more chaos and drama than average but unless I truly have it out for someone it's not something I do on purpose.

When people react badly to something I say or do I scoff at them and ask what it is that I've done that's oh so terrible. That tends to make people even more upset so I've been told though I still don't understand why. It's not my fault that I'm always right and that I have no issues saying exactly what I think about a person, people, and/or situation.

As far as what would help me see another point of view, appealing to logic is the best way to go with me. Appealing to anything emotional will not help at all. I lack empathy so I obviously cannot care about the other person's feelings. But saying something that's rooted in thought, and saying it in such a way where I can see how stopping X behavior would benefit me... That is what would actually work. As it is, I can't see the other person's point of view, and trust me people have tried that approach with me and it simply never works. I can't see the other side of it, the other person, it's all about my wants and needs.

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