I have trouble with plans. I always feel like they're just going along with a plan if I initiate due to feeling obligated. Then I want to cancel, but I can't because I made the plans. But then I worry that it'll be disasterous. If I do cancel then I worry about being a flake and that they'll never agree to spend time with me again.

If they make the plan and I agree then I feel like I absolutely have to or they'll never invite me again -I also say yes even when I know I don't actually want to. If I cancel then I worry that they will be angry (I find it's easier to cancel if it's a group thing.)

I usually have a good time once I'm out - especially if it's 1:1. Most of the time people who have gotten to know me somewhat,well, they can often figure out it's best to invite me at the last minute - I'm more likely to go "Ok I'll get ready now" and don't have the time to worry too much and cancel. lol.