My sister breaks men's hearts. I get real tired of hearing about her terrible judgment where it comes to men. She is very beautiful, dresses expensively and well, keeps her body up with exercise and dance, and attracts men like flies to honey. She beomes intimate FRIENDS ONLY with guys who fall in love with her. Then, instead of telling them to find someone else, and go on with their lives (since I've read and believe that if one person is in love and the other isn't it CAN'T work and one of them will get seriously hurt) she might even get drawn into kissing the guy. Then she immediately cools off, and wants to go back to being friends. She says she "doesn't want to hurt him," as she dumps him, and instead of a simple statement that it won't work, she writes long emails trying to express sweetly that she cares about him, their friendship, etc. She and I talk on the phone about once a week, and sometimes go to concerts together (only 3-4 times a year or less.) Last time we went to a concert, she say Him and his Girlfriend -- she made us move to another seat! So now I won't go to concerts with her again. I now will tell her somehow I cannot discuss men with her anymore. Probably I'll just say that if she starts to talk to me about some guy. This attitude of hers has been going on for four years. Oh, I forgot to say that with her last "serious" relationship where she sometimes was in love with this guy, agreed to marry him, then said she wasn't ready to get married, then found him boring and stressing her out, and told him she was pulling back, then getting close again -- several times of this -- he finally broke up with HER and found another girlfriend soon after. Twice or more, she has said she is totally over him; it's OVER, she says. But it never is. She has been absolutely devastated for 4 years now about him. She has occasionally told me she realizes about herself having put him off, but then she still can't cut loose. She is really stressing me out. She also blames me for stuff -- little stuff, but stuff she brings on in our phone conversations. I no longer dare to ask about her life or events -- she will go way overtime on our phone conversations (which SHE wants to time with a timer, giving equal time to each of us) Then, when I say I gotta go now, she says "Well, you ASKED." about something. I honestly don't know how to handle this. Oh, and by the way -- she is stressed out about 90% of the time. When she's not stressed out, she is loving, patient, and understanding. None of the above behavior. I have told her I can tell as soon as she starts speaking on the phone if she is stressed out or not. She accepted that. She said she wanted to know that. But she has also told me she likes her stressed lifestyle.