Thank you Fayerody, Okiedokie, RiverX, and Raynaadi. I do not think the thread is being hijacked by moving on to a more productive topic that whether my itty bitty feelings were hurt, which they certainly are not now. I'm also glad to learn that as some of us recover from depression, it can be too triggering and well, sadly, depressing, to go back to the Depression group. Perhaps that is true of other things.

After more than 20 years sober, I cannot go back to AA either. I rarely think of alcohol or drug abuse anymore. The only times it comes to mind with any strength is when I go to an AA meeting and hear people talk about it for an hour, LOL.

I hope the tip about where to go at PC for 12-step talk is helpful RiverX. If you are not eligible for the self-harmers group, have you considered Emotions Anonymous? Also, the emotional issues discussed at ACOA and AlAnon cover a wide swatch of relationship dysfunctional behaviors. Perhaps you will find a group you like.

It is very necessary to shop around for a group. It's also necessary to go more than once to each meeting to get a feel for it. I read a book about how to develop one's support system. It said that we have to go to a place -- such as church, a support group etc. -- SEVEN times before people start to recognize us as "one of the group."

I consider myself to be an anonymous, unnoticeable person. In the 1980s, I attended a small, storefront church, going on Sunday and to even smaller teaching groups during the weekday evenings. Soon, people were greeting me by my first name and asking me how I was etc. I was stunned. Then I realized, "You've been going here for months now, and this is a small crowd. Of course, they know who you are if they have intelligence greater than an artichoke."

Again, best wishes with your quest, RiverX.