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Originally Posted by alieninshadows
One thing you need to know about discussing anything with my mom is that she manipulates the conversation and will turn anything you say into an issue and making herself into a victim. She is a classic narcissist. Oh, but don't ever tell that to her or disagree with her in general. Only she is right and she is queen and deserves all the pity in the world.
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That sounds exactly like my mother. Thankfully I managed to cut our contact down to a couple of phone calls a month, in the recent years. I've been considering cut off all contact for good, but that plan is gonna take some time...
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Originally Posted by alieninshadows
Every now and then she would give me a chance to take the mic and want me to fill in my thoughts on situations that a 5 or 6 year old me could not possibly understand or comprehend back then, but apparently some of the guilt she felt was because of me and how I would complain about moving and everywhere we lived, apparently. Moving is tough on kids. As soon as I mention anything positive or explain why I don't want my daughter to live a life of constant uprooting, she cuts me off and gets defensive and won't shut up for minutes at a time. And then continues and goes on and on like the Energizer bunny.
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And that sounds like my father used to be. I said "used to be" because it's been years since I saw him, ever since I left my home country. And I haven't spoken to him in years, but I'm sure he hasn't changed. But when challenged, he would simply gets all defensive, justifying his actions and invalidating my feelings at the same time.
Sorry I don't have anything useful to say to you. I just wanted to empathize.
