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Originally Posted by YMIHere
I appreciate the acknowledgement. It just lets me know that some people are here for reasons other than to tear other people down.
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You're most welcome. I'm here for support and to support others.
I wish everyone could be here for the same reasons, mostly, but...well.
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Originally Posted by YMIHere
As far as "discovery" of issues - are you saying that friends/family thought they had you diagnosed before the doctors? The only reason I'm asking is b/c I took a beating from friends, but nobody had anything to offer other than the fact that I was a $h!t friend who lives in "Cynthialand." It all makes sense NOW but for years I just beat myself up that I was this horrible person never realizing I was a person in desperate need of help.
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Yes - romantic partners, actually. I am very familiar with being "the difficult one" who is just a PITA to everyone.
TL;DR version of the story: I was with one girl who was heavily into reading up on disorders and she pointed to the definition of BPD one day and said that it was what I had. Needless to say, I was extremely offended and dismissed it (it wasn't very credible coming from her, IMO). But later, another partner said she had been doing some reading and wondered if I didn't have BPD. Both very upset and unsettled, I told her (after I calmed down) that my ex had said the same thing about me. It was only later when I went back into therapy that I was diagnosed with it (the last time I had seen a therapist before that was when I was 14/15).
My family never figured out what my deal was, thankfully. To this day I have never told them, and I never will. It would just be something to use against me, something to invalidate my feelings and thoughts with (just like my ex did). As a matter of fact, I don't tell ANYONE in my life anymore about my BPD for that very reason. Only one person in my life now knows about it, and that's only because she has been around for a while and learned about it back when I was more open with people.