I have a different problem with my mom. I cannot even describe it. I think she still sees me as a child although I am in my late 20s, I have a job, I am married and I live in another country. Although it may not sound so bad, her attitude towards me drives me crazy and we often end up in a big fight over essentially nothing. For example, during my wedding she kept making comments like "You are speaking too loud" and "You are behaving inappropriately". At some point I snapped and told her (when we were alone) to stop doing that. She got angry and told me a bunch of mean things like "At some point your husband and his family will see what a horrible person you are and they will turn their backs at you" and "Being with you makes me want to hang myself" ON MY WEDDING DAY! And then I had to apologize to her for overreacting because I didn't want to stay in a fight.

I feel bad every day about not talking to her enough and not visiting her for Christmas. Right now I have anxiety issues and I know I would not survive in her company. The good thing is that she doesn't seem to be upset about it.

Oh, and I am not telling her about my medical issues because she has a tendency to worry too much about everything. I share with her as little as possible now and mostly good news. She has no idea I have a burnout and that I am not working right now. Earlier she told me that I shouldn't work too hard because if I get a nervous breakdown I will be crippled for life, never recover from it and possibly die.