This is a big thing in therapy for me. I get very angry at him during session sometimes and we are still working on the expression of that, but it is getting easier as the weeks pass. In the past, I was never able to express anger towards him for fear that it would "ruin" our relationship. (This is a similar feeling I have in regards to my relationship with my father). One time I was angry at T and I must have been staring at my water bottle... and all of a sudden he goes, "You know... you can tell me how much you want to throw that bottle at my head right now. You can't do it, but you can talk about it." And that sort of opened up the doors for anger expression in therapy. Another thing that helped (but was hard ) was a time in which I left session very angry and him and I went home and expressed all the anger in my journal. I brought the journal to the next session and he really wanted me to read it to him. So finally I did. Calling him every name in the book and all. Boy did it feel good after doing all of that. You know why? Because he stayed. And he's still there. I have gotten to the point in which I can say, "I am angry at you right now because...." or "I hate you right now because..." or "I want to throw that lamp at you right now because...." And recently he has begun to share his feelings back. So occasionally, yes, my anger will affect him in a way in which it can be hurtful to him.... now he tells me when he feels anger, too.... or when he felt anger in a previous session, but didn't want to address the feelings... just like me... it really, really helps to know all that... because it allows me to see him as a human.