Hello 333maizie: I believe that most people who study suicide & suicidal ideation would say that it is always important to take talk of suicide seriously. I have also read a number of books written by experts in the field of suicidology where it has been said that it is correct to ask the person, straight-out: "Are you thinking about trying to kill yourself?" You won't put the idea into the person's head. It's already there. And asking the question may just create the opportunity for the person to share what is going on in their minds. I wish you well with regard to this most difficult situation.