Hello kamikazebaby: You know... I think it really depends on what the relationship was. I'm an older person now. So I've lost many people over the years. Some I barely think about anymore. Others are still absolutely fresh in my mind even though decades have gone by. I would imagine that talking about the person or persons you've lost probably helps. Personally I have no one around who even knew any of the people I've lost. So there's no one to talk to about them. I hope you can find what you need in order to come to terms with your loss...