OUR relationship is great. This is where we stand exactly. We got engaged earlier this year. We started paperwork on a little newer vehicle than we birth currently have. She was telling her parents about it in casual conversation. Her dad was less excited and decided to drive down here from a couple hours away when I was at work and freaked out about it and she changed her mind. I came out of work to see her crying and that's when I found out about what happened. I got angry because I hate seeing her upset for one thing, but more because of him undermining me and me becoming insignificant in a decision that had nothing to do with him. This guy has never treated me like he's cared for me despite me being good to his daughter. Anyway, I was upset and she told them as much.

They said they would come and explain to me, but I was not in the mood to hear it and I was called cowardly because I didn't want to talk...I heard this as it was said and that's when I grabbed the phone and said, heated, that we're both 30 and make good money and don't need them butting into our decisions especially behind my back and that I don't appreciate being insulted. For my fiance's sake I drove to their house a couple days later to smooth things over, but instead her dad was too interested in talking to me like a child about money which was not why I was there. Then he started in about how I was disrespectful and shouldn't talk to adults like I did on the phone which I'm still confused about.

They never apologized about demoralizing me about the vehicle and her mom was reluctant to admit to calling me a coward and then didn't apologize after anyway. This was 2 weeks before an already paid for vacation where we stayed with them for a week in a condo. A week before we got there he called my fiance and told her we weren't welcome the second half of the trip. She got off the phone devastated and started crying again. Fast forward to the trip and I felt tense and uncomfortable being around them and isolated myself at times. This made my fiance stressed and takes us to where we are now a couple months after the trip. Upon getting back from the trip she started going off on me about how she can't marry someone that doesn't get along with her parents which took me aback because I was being blamed for the situation somehow. Emotions and exhaustion from jet lag and a 15 hour flight overnight led to a hasty decision to cut it off. The next day we cried on each other.

We still talk and see each other, but she's torn and depressed about what to do because she's in love with me, but is afraid there will be strife between her family and me. I just want both of us to be treated right by her parents and her sister. we are at the point where she admits her parents were mostly at fault, but she's still saying she wants me to be able to get along with them and she brings up the fact that i don't have the warmest relationship with her sister (The reason for this Thad). She says she has a hard time doing anything her parents don't approve of which seems ridiculous as she's an adult and unfair because they did the legwork to create this situation.

She has been talking to one of my best friends apparently trying to figure out what she should do. It kills me because I know we will have a great marriage as things between us can't get much better except for this. I feel like she needs to get out of the mentality that she has to do what the family expects of her because she knows and says what they did was wrong.

That was a long write up, I know, and I don't mean to make it sound like I do no wrong because I'll be the first one to say I'm not perfect, but I feel like I'm being supremely cheated out of the thing I've lined forward to more than anything I've wanted. To spend life with the person I love more than anything.