I know how you feel because, a few years ago, I did the exact same thing. I had the directions to her house but didn't drive past right away. When I did, I immediately felt extremely guilty. I told her what I did and she didn't like it but she didn't kick me out or anything. She said something like "what if I had been out walking my dog?" I think I said "so what?" She wasn't angry but was frustrated because I didn't understand what was so wrong about doing it and that I crossed her boundaries. Like you, I just wanted to see her house. I didn't want to stalk her.

I'm ashamed of this next part of my story. My T moved and I couldn't stop myself from going by that house too. This time I wasn't going to tell her but I'm terrible at hiding things from her. She guessed that something was wrong. She said I'm not understanding that she has feelings about what I did. I felt like I was compelled to see where I lived because she wasn't going to tell me. She said what bothered her was that I was sneaky. She said I could have asked and maybe she'd show me a picture. I never thought of asking her first!

I was glad that I told her because we discussed why I felt I had to drive past her house. I won't do if again, even if she moves.

I think it's better to be honest than to keep it inside of you but if depends on what kind of relationship you have with your T, and how much it bothers you. A good T will want to discuss your behavior rather than kick you out.