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Originally Posted by Inner_Firefly
Is it really so bad to drive past your T's house? Your intention was not to stalk but to perhaps to feel connected with her during her vacation, or natural curiosity. You were only looking at a house, not going inside or bothering her. You sound like a good person. If it helps you to feel better, I did something similar, I looked at Google Maps to get an idea of how T's house looks like, though I was too afraid to drive past in real life. It's just a bunch of bricks visible to the public. I also walk to T's office building whenever I miss T and enjoy the soothing atmosphere, then go home with the warm fuzzies. Good luck, I hope everything goes well for you.
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I am very sure that the OP meant no harm, but Google Maps is one thing, an actual drive-by that is deliberate is another. As someone else said, therapists deserve privacy too. On the internet (Google Maps) there is little expectation of privacy, in one's home there is.
I understand the impulse to do a drive-by but it needs to be recognized that this could affect someone else deeply. I had a student who used to drive by my house regularly, deliberately, out of her way. I eventually noticed that the same car kept driving slowly by, usually in the evening when I'd be out doing yardwork. I was getting somewhat alarmed as the car was not one of the neighbors', until I finally clocked who was driving. While that relieved my anxiety, I spoke to the student about it quite sternly. It took awhile for our relationship - she was an advisee - to recover.
It's not a question of good or bad, right or wrong, honest or dishonest. It's a question of boundaries.