If these things are true, would self-esteem be a delusion? People don't disagree that I have a bad personality or that I'd only be considered beautiful by some people. Shouldn't I become a person worthy of self-esteem in the first place before attempting to create it out of thin air? Besides how does one build self-esteem if one never had it in the first place? Therapists want you to remember when you had self-esteem and to rebuild it. I never had it.