I meet my now fiancé when I was 39 on an online site. 6.5 years later we will be married. He seemed like a player and I Was hesitant at first. Once we got to talking then eventually meeting I knew he wasn't (anymore). I wasn't wrong in my initial assesment but life and maturing changed his ways in his first marriage. I am getting the better version. He never cheated on first wife and never cheated on me. They are out there. They Will have baggage. Its how they've unpacked and dealt with it that counts. Don't give up.