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Originally Posted by Seraphine
Sometimes forever. I've had people do some incredibly cruel things to me, and still miss them from time to time, enough that it's like tearing Terre wound open afresh. I crave the good things about them, and the way they made me feel when loving on me. It takes time to remember how malicious they turned out. Or how they betrayed my trust.
One thing that really helps I found is accepting those feelings, that I have them, and don't need to act on them, but I don't have to deny them and act tough either. In time the pain passes, and I'm ok again. I hope this helps
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Ditto. I wish the bad things could kill the caring/attachment, but recalling them only distresses me more. Even the people who seem "good" end up being cruel in the end. I just want all the feelings to go away, because I can't cope with them. They're too strong.
So far the only thing that dampens the pain is medication. When it takes years to get over such things, relationships hardly seem worth the trouble, especially considering the odds of success versus failure.