Hi everyone,

Please help... thank you so very much. So it seems I have a message posted on my forehead that says "Abuse Me". Seriously.

I'm also dealing with abuse at work from my boss.

It is all just so distressing..... why I keep running into these situations is beyond me.... I do stand up for myself, when I am disrespected. Does that invite more abuse? I do know from past experience that when you stand up for yourself to an abusive person, they just abuse more.

Well, my boss is no exception. She lambasted me last week for telling her I am unavailable to work over the holidays, during my paid time off. She became a raging bit*h towards me. Well, it was never communicated to me upon being hired that I would be expected to work on holidays, vacation days, and weekends if there is a promotion going on. (I work in marketing). Then, on top of that, it was never clearly communicated that I had to either assign out the task or do it myself, until just recently. But instead of simply communicating this calmly and clearly to me, she lambasted me entirely about it, and was a complete bit*h, which only just made me feel awful.

She does abuse me--- she constantly is disrespectful towards me, she snaps at me all the time and humiliates me in front of co-workers.... she mistreats me, which I interpret as abuse.

I just don't understand why this keeps happening in my life, over and over and over again... which is probably a separate thread altogether....

I am a nice person.... I have a good heart, and I treat others with respect, dignity and kindness. I am very compassionate and caring... and I am a good friend to those who are close to me. I am a people pleasing type... I bend over backwards to please.. and don't like conflict or when someone is displeased with me. I work very hard in my job..... I believe in doing high quality work. I care a lot.... I'm nice to everyone I meet. I've been accused of being "too nice" in fact.

But why do I deserve abuse from so many people? What the heck??? I just don't get it.

Bosses, boyfriends, online... the list is ongoing. I've had several abusive bosses in my life. The pattern keeps repeating itself. I am no doormat, though...

does anyone have any answers for me as to why this keeps happening? Are there certain types of people that abusers like to target and am I one of them??

I just want to give up.. I'm so done with being abused. It's not fair, it;s not right. I don't get it. Please enlighten me. Thank you so very much for reading!