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Old Dec 28, 2015, 02:35 PM
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Originally Posted by ValentinaVVV View Post
I think what is so hard for us non-PDs to understand is the utter contempt that most PDs have for the rest of us.

A lot of PDs say that they develop their behavior because of abuse and a inappropriate defense mechanisms.

A lot of us non-PDs just see it as just behaving abusively and cruel.

I grew up with emotional and physical abuse and I am not abusive OR cruel. And yes, I would say my parents definitely have PDs themselves.
1) A lot of the contempt you're picking up from people with PD's such as myself come from the fact that most "nons" hold people with PD's with a high amount of contempt, as evidenced that I was insulted out of nowhere on this thread when I have done nothing wrong.

2) I can't speak for everyone that has a PD, for myself I think I am more of a product of nature but the nurture part of it likely exacerbated things. For me I'd say I'm 70% nature, 30% nurture.

3) I can see why you see it that way.

4) Everyone is different, I know plenty of people who were abused as children who don't have any PD at all.
Thanks for this!
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