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Originally Posted by angelicgoldfish05
Thanks all for your support and sharing your wisdom/ experience!! I ended up getting all A's except for the class I mentioned earlier, which was a c. I ended up basically doing two of my classes though. Next semester I will have double classes and teaching an after school program as well as working weekends. I've already been warning him and preparing him that he's never gonna see me. He says this is why he wants to move in together but I really can't afford that right now cause I'm trying to get out of debt so I can buy a house.
So at the moment, I think I'll just let him do all the apartment hunting, if he is the one who is really motivated. I already searched one we could mostly afford, and set up the appointment to see it and all but he wouldn't have passed the background check (dui), so we didn't even try to pay the application fee and apply. Since then he says I should find out what I can qualify for cause I will pass the background check and then I guess he is thinking he can just basically live there our something. Which I guess if be fine with cause he'd be helping with rent (which I would need).
But I honestly don't think I'll qualify for much on my income only, so I don't even think I'm going to look since it is really not in my best interests right now. If he is the one who really wants it, he can be the one to find something that would suit us both and fit our criteria. He is real big on me making the decisions (seems like only when he doesn't want to though, and then when he does I don't have much of a say). But this is one I'm going to basically leave to him. Now, on to next semester with full force! Full speed ahead with indefinite focus and determination. Nothing is going to stop me from meeting my goals, not even him.
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Why do you think he won't pass a background check because of DUI? Did he tell you that? Background checks for renting an apartment (assuming you are in the US) are usually to see if someone has defaulted on a loan or broken a lease before. I was told by a leasing manager at one place I lived that all they do is run a credit report and then if you have never broken a lease or defaulted on a mortgage loan, you are good. I don't know if all places are like that but lots of people have DUIs and they all find housing.
Also, most places you would be in violation of the lease if he lives there. Some are really super restrictive to prevent this sort of thing, one place I lived said if someone was going to be staying with me more than five days in a row that I had to notify the landlord and specifically said anyone staying more than two weeks had to be on the lease.