Last night, I tried to recall what T and I were talking about and I "think" we were talking about how my family typically treats me like I'm an afterthought; they don't really hear what I say or take what I say seriously. (This is a guess...) If I'm right, T might have been referring to my perception that regardless of the good ways some family members might treat me, I focus, instead, on the few that disregard me. And, now that I think of it, I do see this as a form of abuse.

I don't understand what you said about, "my therapist and I don't use this particular type in counseling cuz im very open to her and we never had a falling out in counseling." Is filtering a therapy technique? My T and I are very close, though we've recently gone through a rough transference patch, but nothing that I would consider a falling out. Mention was made by my T at that time that she was going to have to examine her counter transference...and nothing else has been said about it.

I may need to ask my T what, exactly, did she mean when she used the word 'filtering.' Regardless, this information is helpful and adds to my knowledge of various psychological techno talk I'm not familiar with, which is always a good thing. Thanks so much for your help!