Wow Almeda, that is a lot to take in. I wonder if you'll be ready to talk about it in your joint session. I'm sure it is ok if you are not ready yet and need to process for awhile on your own.

One thing that stuck me was that if I was in your situation, I'd be glad to finally have the trut. But it would be hard to have gotten rid of the burden of the secret from your dad to now having secret from your mom. I don't know if that's how you feel and I'm not trying to put words in your mouth, but I t hink it would be hard to have this new information to deal with when you were just trying to clear up an old burden. Take care of yourself and do what is right for you.