Wow, almedafan, what a tale. I can hardly process it all and I am not personally connected! I worry for you that there is not enough time to process this before your session with your mom. I hope you will feel no pressure to do the joint session if you are not ready. Maybe you need a few sessions with T on your own to deal with this new information before inviting mom to join you. If you do continue with your plan to go to therapy with your mom this week, is there any way you can call your T and give him the full story so he is prepared? What goals do your mom and you have for the joint therapy? Was it to get these secrets out?

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She said all these years, she let everyone label her a ***** because she never wanted to tell my dad what really happened.

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This family secret has caused everyone enormous pain and affected all your family dynamics for decades. Although the truth is painful, it might have been better to share it with her husband than keep it all to herself these years. What a difficult and painful situation for everyone.

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he did not know if I was his child when my mom told him she was pregnant until the day I was born

he doubted that I was his. He still doesn't know the truth to this day

Apparently, they did some blood test and proved my dad is my dad.

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It looks like you said he did learn you were his on the day you were born but then you wrote he still doesn't know. ? And the results of the blood test were not shared with your dad? It might help everyone to know the truth.

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Now she is swearing me to secrecy and is scared I'm going to tell my dad.

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I wonder if family therapy for all 3 of you might be worth trying? Secrets can just gnaw at a family. I hope your therapist can offer guidance.

Take care, almedafan. This new information must be so overwhelming. Please don't take your mom to therapy if you are not ready for it. (((((hugs)))))