I also admit I don't understand every culture, every sex, every religion, or class difference. What I do know is that I cannot assume everything I read is posted by a particular subset, usually the majority, a white male, unless that person "outs" themselves as something "different". That's where and when I see racism, sexism, etc.

To the OP, to soothe the conscious of others I am now outing myself, and speaking to you as a BLACK WOMAN, A SiSTER, A NEGRO, and whatever the others choose to imagine me. I have been there, and I feel for you. But, I do recent others telling me that because I'm this or that my experience and my feelings about prejudice of my race have to toe some party line. I don't think it is necessary to have someone of the same color, sex, as a therapist. Certainly there are preference. You just have to find one that is attuned to you. Finding the right one can be a crap shoot.

stop dog: Experience of others and their experience, IN MY OPINION ONLY, CANNOT really come from just reading books. I suggest one FORCE themselves to expand their friendship circle, not just as acquaintances.

Respectfully,
wtr
An AfroLatino-American by way of Dutch, British West Indian decent, cisgender female)

And OP, sorry for hijacking your thread.