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But here's the thing that worries me. I now have thoughts of him in my head all the time. It feels obsessive.

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sister, I have thoughts of my T in my head often too. But it doesn't feel obsessive (maybe it once was?). It feels comforting. I think he will be with me all my life in my head, even when I am no longer seeing him. Somehow, I like that--he will live on. Maybe it's not such a bad thing?

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So, how do I have a conversation or hold onto the love as Almeda says, without feeling obsessive?

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Why does it feel obsessive? Do you personally think it feels obsessive or do you think others would criticize you and call you "obsessed" if they knew how often you are thinking about your T in his absence? Sometimes I have felt my relationship with my T to be aberrant because it is not like any other in my life. But then I read about therapy and find that it is supposed to be very close and connected and intense, like nothing else you have experienced. And then I know I am OK. People who haven't been in therapy (as I was before ) might not understand or get it and think it obsessive. But we know better, don't we?

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I wonder if I'm doing something wrong in therapy?

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I wouldn't use the word "wrong," but maybe you are feeling the urge to take a new direction when T returns? Nothing wrong with that. Run that by your T when he comes back. You don't need to stick with a particular tack if it is not getting you where you need to go.

(((((hugs)))))