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Originally Posted by ryanLR15
Oh I totally relate. That is exactly what is happening here. She goes from one extreme to the other. It is very annoying. I definitely no longer consider her a close friend. Close friends do not do that. Sometimes I wonder if she considers me a back up friend since way back when we had a group, she would only talk to me one-on-one. If we were in a group, I was absolutely invisible and nothing to her.
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I think there are many reasons why someone might be like that, and you've mentioned one of them. I get the impression that people who do this are more hedonistic/self-absorbed types. They might turn to you when their other options aren't quite working out, or need something. It makes me suspect they view people more as objects who are to be used for their own interests, rather than actual people. It creates a horrible dynamic, to be honest. I think these types are maybe also more narcissistic. That's the only way I can explain their behavior. Anyway, it's better to spend your time building relationships with people who are able to reciprocate, so just do that instead
