Hi Inny -- I don't need clarification. None of my business, really. I just hope you are clear. There is still a lot going on in this situation. Marriage is a big step, and the problems don't just vanish when the wedding cake is cut, and then the bride and groom go off to live "happily ever after." The problems will be there, sometimes more intensely. And as Marianne Williamson has written, marriage means that no one is leaving the room when the shouting starts.