I'm not sure how to answer. This is a question I've thought a lot about.

On the one hand because I am powerfully attached my T has power. Lots of it. She controls access to a resource I feel desperately in need of ---herself. She decides frequency of sessions, outside contact etc etc. That's all out of my control.

On the other hand,she has invested a great deal of herself u to our work together. And I could just tear it away at any time. As if we were both working on a sculpture together and I just torched it and said " see ya". Assuming she is invested in her work, that would suck.

So I don't know how to answer