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Old Dec 29, 2015, 12:54 PM
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Originally Posted by donna450 View Post
My daughter..strong personality..has had a rocky relationship...husband hard worker..drinks...mama's boy.
Daughter is insecure wanting her husband to stand up for her against his mother's deliberate or daughters interpretation of snubbery. Husband texted me and he sees no problem..but daughter sees and feels she is undermine not accepted and not supported by husband.. ideas?
Marriage counseling no by husband. He doesn't want to choose one over the other. Ideas?
You need to tell him that you do not want to be in the middle of your daughter's marriage. This is not something you can solve for him. If he refuses to go to counseling then he needs to figure out another way to better communicate with his mother and his wife. Either way, it is unfair to put you in the middle of it, there's absolutely nothing you can do. He probably doesn't want to go to counseling because if he's a heavy drinker he doesn't want anyone to call him on it. I think his mother's attitude is probably a small problem and there are other much bigger problems in the marriage. Either way, you should not be put in such a position.
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