But see, that waiter thing isn't really logical because you don't give a tip until you are about to leave. The food would have already been eaten. And the wait time order issue, I would take up with the person who has that control, not the waiter, so I'd still not worry about the waiter (and I do let the waiter know I don't hold them responsible for what they don't have control over, not because I worry about their "power" but because I have respect for people who work often thankless jobs and get blamed wrongly for things they have no control over.)

And as I write that response, I realize I am pretty good at seeing who really does have the power and authority and placing the responsibility on the right person which may explain why I don't see the therapist as the powerful one. I was never one to agonize over whether to see a therapist again if after a few sessions it just didn't feel right. I just didn't go back. I had that power. Yet, I often read here about people who agonize over whether to go back or not, how to the let the therapist know without hurting their feelings, etc., etc. It makes me wonder why people walk into a session with a complete stranger, first meeting, and have already given their power away.