I'm baffled. I think I'm pretty good at explaining myself. Especially in writing, or if I plan out what to say.
But recently, and in fact going back years, my boyfriend has been telling me I don't make sense.
I have no frame of reference to tell if I'm really not making sense, or if he just doesn't get it.

Like today. I've been gathering information in preparation to go to a psychiatrist for over a month now. There are so many things to think about, symptoms, conditions, etc etc that I decided I need to get down to the bottom line and make a list of practical issues -- that is, how my feelings and thoughts and problems cause actual problems, like not performing well at work.
I have a few, but I know sometimes it takes fresh eyes. I've particularly come to realize lately that a lot of things I do or think aren't normal, but I've never known because to me it's normal. So I asked my boyfriend if he could add any other ones, and he told me he didn't understand. So I backtracked and tried to explain as simply as possible that I want to see a therapist to help me change unhealthy behaviors, so I need to know what behaviors need to be changed. He just repeated that it didn't make sense, and I can't think of another way to say it.
He says my priorities are out of order because I've already decided what kind of therapy I want: CBT or something like it. But I chose that type because it focuses on changing behaviors, which is exactly what I want to do, which is why I want to be able to tell the therapist exactly what behaviors I want to change.

When I ask him things like this he just seems to shut down. This time he said "I don't know what these people are supposed to do for you, so I can't help you." And he always sounds angry about it. Today he even called me "obsessed" over the therapist issue. I may be spending more time planning than many people might, but I do have OCPD, and to me "obsession" is when you spend too much time worrying about something that doesn't really matter, or can't be changed. I don't see this as obsessing, because it's something I should give a lot of thought to.

I just don't get it. The exact words I used (I think): "I want them to help me change the behaviors that are problems, so I want to be able to tell them what behaviors need to change, and I thought you might be able to think of some I didn't."
Does that really not make sense? Is this my problem or his?