I have been pleasantly surprised with PC, the vast majority of people are mature and don't overreact. So many things that could have been drama don't turn into it because one or both people stay calm after an initial negative reaction.

I had to google "queer" because I was really curious if there was an "official" definition. Most of the people I have met that ID that way are pan or bisexual women. PFLAG's site has a pretty good definition: https://community.pflag.org/abouttheq "Today, more and more young people are coming out “queer,” much to the dismay of the older generation of the LGBT community who is used to hearing it as the oppressors attempt to degrade and dehumanize them. Although not exclusively used by the younger generation, and not used by all youth in all cities and towns, it does seem that more LGBT people are choosing Queer as their term of identification than LGBT people ten years ago and that those who choose to identify in this way actually benefit from not choosing a specific label. ...Think of queer as an umbrella term. It includes anyone who a) wants to identify as queer and b) who feels somehow outside of the societal norms in regards to gender or sexuality."

I've always used pansexual because trans* people I have dated consider it to be trans* inclusive whereas bisexual isn't. I also would have no interest romantically in someone who was completely uninterested in sex. The two things are too connected for me. I don't care about gender presentation though, or sex organs necessarily.