Quote:
Originally Posted by fantasyland
This is going to sound silly but I am torn on what to do. I went to a family friendly Christmas party over the holidays... One of my really good male friends got super drunk (the only one at the party that was heavily drinking)(I myself was not drinking) and he got completely wasted (there happened to be like 20 children there). I was having an innocent conversation with a girlfriend of mine about her daughters stuffed toy that she got for Christmas. The questions was... did it look like a kitty cat or a doggy? My drunk male friend walked over and I asked him his opinion..... (which is when I realized how drunk he was) and he took the stuffed toy out of my hand and hit me across the face. Not only did the toy hit me but his hand hit me too. I was humiliated and started crying and walked off to cool down. When I went back ... he was using vulgar language and asked me what the F*** was wrong with me. When I explain to him what he did.... he said "Oh like this" and hit me again. I was mortified that he would do that... especially infront of a bunch of people. I told him to never speak to me again... dont text.. dont call. The next morning he had no recollection of what happened. I feel like I hate him for what he did... but I also feel like if he wasnt drunk he would have never done that. I have been friends with this person for about 8 years.. and never seen him act this way. My question is... do I let it go... and forgive... or do I stay away and forget a friendship. what would you do in this situation?
|
That friendship would be over for me, period. Drinking lowers inhibitions, but it doesn't cause people to do something completely out of character, IMO. I used to be a heavy drinker and I also have dated plenty of heavy drinkers/alcoholics. I personally feel like being drunk is something people use as an excuse to try to get out of something they've done wrong. If a friend ever assaulted me they wouldn't be a friend of mine anymore. I don't know your friend's motivation but if it happened to me I would feel like there was an inherent disrespect for me - or all women - that had to be present in him for him to do that.