i guess i feel confused because when i finally told about my former T all everyone told me was about the 'power imbalance'. i felt like what happened was my fault, like i ruined his life by telling. i heard those words so much... power dynamic... power imbalance...etc. eventually hearing that did help me realize that although i did have a part in what happened, that it was my T , the professional trained in ethics, that ****ed up. maybe i am sensitive to this subject but i find it invalidating and triggering to see some people say that client's "give away " their power or something but, like i said, i have been in a uniquely unfortunate situation with a therapist, so perhaps its just my stuff