Quote:
Originally Posted by junkDNA
i guess i feel confused because when i finally told about my former T all everyone told me was about the 'power imbalance'. i felt like what happened was my fault, like i ruined his life by telling. i heard those words so much... power dynamic... power imbalance...etc. eventually hearing that did help me realize that although i did have a part in what happened, that it was my T , the professional trained in ethics, that ****ed up. maybe i am sensitive to this subject but i find it invalidating and triggering to see some people say that client's "give away " their power or something  but, like i said, i have been in a uniquely unfortunate situation with a therapist, so perhaps its just my stuff |
You cannot "give away" what you never had. Inherent power imbalances--power imbalances that can never be fully equalized--exist. A teenage girl cannot one-up a dirty old creep, tyrant, and abuser.
In NO WAY was anything that happened between you and your ex-T your fault. The only "part" you had in it was being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
As somebody has already said, there wouldn't be all of these ethics rules if every client were able to stand on equal footing with every therapist.