I don't really think there's a way to do therapy wrong. It's different for each person, and while it can be really hard for some people, it can be enjoyable for others. Right now for me, I enjoy going to therapy and seeing my T. But there are some things I'd like to eventually work on, and I expect that to be more difficult. I don't think it matters if you're talking about "the right things that T wishes to hear" because therapy is for you, and whatever you want to talk about is what's right to talk about.