Yeah that's how mine works, I bet it depends on your issue though. My therapy seems to be all about my therapist listening, attuned, caring or pretending to care, etc. I think the whole point is so I feel loved, and then I crave that feeling, and then realize I'm not really loved, and that's an old childhood wound of mine, so then it becomes painful and torturous even though I want to see my therapist all the time. So for me, therapy is quite painful while also being quite fabulous. It is painful because there is not more of it and more of him. And painful because I'll never know if how he treats me is how he genuinely feels or if I've just paid for an act so to speak. And then it's fabulous because it's what I crave and what I never get anywhere else, human connection, with someone who treats me nice.

I could kind of give a **** how I am as a client. I mean I want him to like me, and love me even, and really to fall in love with me... but I think that's mostly it, I don't care if I'm a good client or not so long as he loves me, whatever that might take (probably impossible). LOL.