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My current therapist
Sunny: I wish I could be divorced tomorrow! (Said last week in the heat of feeling I-am-so-effing-sick-of-this-divorce.)
Therapist (smiling): I bet you do. Or tonight!
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I know this isn't the main point of your post, but I SOOO know how you feel. In fact, you'll see that I just said something similar if you read my post in the 3 wishes thread.
There is so much practical work that has to be done in a divorce. One needs to be logical and clear headed to do it all correctly. I just want it to be over too!
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sunrise said:The response from my former counselor was kind of a conversation stopper. Well, of course I knew my husband would really come home. Did she think I was living in la-la land? It really took us nowhere for her to say that my little heartfelt wish was unrealistic.
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I think I've mostly held off from sharing those little comments to my T because I'm afraid of getting a response like your first T. When I am talking to myself I think I my self-talk gives those unhelpful responses to myself. But, your post made me remember a little comment I made to T last week and her response made me smile even though the whole conversation was sort of offhand as we were wrapping up. I was telling her that I had to go back to work the next day after being on vacation Monday & Tuesday.
Lemon: At least tomorrow is Wednesday...only 3 more days until the weekend.
T: hmm (nods)
Lemon: but then 5 days (referring to having to work a full week of work next week)
T (gently): but there is two days in between
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sunrise said:Her "rejection" of my comment contributed to making me feel I had to be completely serious and totally realistic with her all the time. This little interchange did nothing to advance our therapeutic alliance.
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You're right. It was the kind of unhelpful comment that doesn't really move the conversation anywhere and doesn't provide any comfort.
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He took the somewhat whimsical wish in the spirit it was shared. .
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Yes....you have a great T. This has made me think about how, T's don't always have to have deep, thoughtout responses to everything we say. It is nice to hear them just agree with us sometimes and acknowledge how we feel.
Sorry don't know the answer to your final questions, but they are interesting ones. I guess if you notice similar differences between the T's you've worked with it could point to a difference in training or philosphy. I also think that it can just be T's personality or where they are at the moment.
Hang in there....this divorce stuff has to be done some day right?!?
