I am only four years younger than my brother and believe me, my parents never were abusive towards any of us. My brother was not an easy child as well and has a tendency to hold a grudge very quickly...

I would also add that he went to the US because their universities have the best to offer in his field of studies, I don't think it has something to do with moving away from my parents, and he is very attached to family values. He used to call us every week before the whole argument + therapy thing!

He is still "allowed" to have a contact with my parents like once a month via e-mail but the therapist checks it first. And I can contact him whenever I want but there is not much I can without choosing a side...

I am actually relieved that your replies show that therapist sometimes use sometimes such methods. Anyway he is supposed to be coming home in about 2 months (plane tickets are already bought) but he already canceled one trip with the tickets bought aw sooo, I guess we'll see. Thank you all for your answers