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Originally Posted by kamikazebaby
It's good that you can share that much with those people and that they are, if not supportive, at least not destructive with their knowledge.
I have a friend who is convinced her husband has BPD, and she often makes a lot of negative comments about "BPDs". She seems to think highly of me, so I imagine she'd be quite shocked if I told her I was "one of those BPDs".  |
I think at least a portion of what makes it easier is that despite my issues - when I don't dwell on them, I think I'm a pretty fabulous person lol.
What I mean is, I don't much care what other people think of me. This is me, take it or leave it.
Now the PROBLEM is when some of these things really OUGHT to be changed, but I don't want to.
Case in point: my performance evaluation was talking about how I need to work on my soft skills - communication etc. I'm very direct. I don't like *****-footing around about trying to figure out the absolute BEST way to say something. So this is something that is working against me, but I'm actually irritated that I'm expected to change this.
But that particular thing has been an issue since I moved to Florida. In NY, nobody ever complained about how direct I was as long as I got shyt done. When I first moved here I was told I need to "throw a little sweetness in my voice" when I answer the phone. They told me it sounds like people are bugging me (they were - phones were not my job).
In NY - XYZ Company, this is Cynthia. How can I help you?
In Florida they expect - Good morning! Thank you for calling XYZ Company, this is Cynthia, how can I help you? And make sure that sounds all sugar and light. BLECCH!
So what it boils down to is I'm good at my job and in MY mind, that should really be enough, but apparently it isn't and that is one of the causes of my strife.