Thank you for your feedback. I think I'll ask my daughter to read some comments in here and get some of her frustrations.
She tends to want to be accepted by his family and any perceived dig puts her in a tizzy. Husband does not see it. But she needs to make herself happy instead of judging slight comments that is perceived as personal attacks. She's got to learn she won't change in-laws and even husband. She needs to grow a thicker skin. She won't get therapy I've suggested that before and she thinks she has to make all the changes herself feeling she's right that it means her fault. That she is the only one trying. One daughter who shrinks at abortive comment per daughter very self sufficient. Opposing pillars. Thanks again.