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Originally Posted by PianogirlPlays
Incidents! It feels like I start to get happy and then rejection, feelings of neglect , hurt feelings come in and I feel robbed of my happiness. These events have added up and now I feel stuck in the pain of feeling convinced that I can't be happy and fatigue I guess from all the attempts to climb up again day after day. I do realize though that you have to keep trying because giving in just means even more and worse pain.
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I try to see happiness as a bowl filled with pieces of joy. You will be fully happy when your bowl is full. The pieces of joy can be small, big, tiny, or so big one would fill up the whole bowl. Unfortunately, the pieces of joy don't stay there forever. If you received one small piece of joy today, it might not be there tomorrow.
Joy comes from things outside of your control. Like winning a lottery or making a new trusted friend. Joy comes from being nice to other people, like making a surprise present for a friend when they least expect it. Joy comes from within ourselves when we achieve something important for us.
The first source of joy is completely out of our control, we cannot always expect other people or circumstances to do something nice for us. The second source is within our control but requires input.
Having this said, we are more likely to be happy if we are willing to work on it. It might help you to list all the things that bring you joy.