Thank you Simone, i appreciate the telephone number. He is most definately a narcissist, the last time 2x I tried to take the kids to my mums he wouldn't let me leave and tells me he's here for the kids and I am taking them away and being manipulative. You can't reason with unreasonable. Today, I managed to get to mums as he was out. This will only be temporary though, I will have to go home and that's where I will have a problem I think as he has nowhere to go. Everything you are all saying is right and I know what I need to do now, it's getting worse as the years go on and it's not fair on any of us. Thank you for your support.