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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I wonder if I found a partner who would satisfy me emotionally and physically, would I be able to finally quit therapy? I don't know if that will happen, but I was thinking about it. I use T to meet those needs, but if I had a real person, it's possible I'd be satisfied. Or, are the childhood unmet needs still going to be an obstacle? I don't expect anyone to know the answer, and I'm not ready to look for a man yet, but I did start wondering about it.
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No, no, no. Those needs are yours, and no one can fill them. Not a T and not a partner. I have the most wonderful wife you could ask for, but I remain haunted by loneliness, pain and need rooted in my childhood. Your T is never meant to meet those needs, but to teach you by example how to meet them yourself. As my T is fond of saying " YOU are who you really need. When you are truly loving and supporting yourself, that need will finally quiet"
Not only do I think.its unlikely to work I think its actually dangerous and unhealthy to look to someone else to.meet those needs