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At first it can be scary. My friend has several alters, 2 of whom have a tendency to be violent. So when he shifts, it's clear, the face and voice change.
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This is something that really worries me about me. I mean, Im pretty sure all of me is pacifist, and all of me disagrees with violence. But I do have pretty angry parts to me, and I do think it is ok to be violent towards to myself in order to prevent me being violent against others. But what if I don't know that that there are violent sides to me? What if my T discovers that before I do and I hurt him? I really cannot imagine any situation that would ever occur. Im just not a violent person, and I don't have a history of people telling me Im violent in occurrences I don't remember. But I also know that lots of people are scared of me. Its like people see a potential for violence in me that I just don't see myself. I haven't hit anyone for 23 years, and Ive only ever hit two people in my life. But I know my T is scared of me, and now Im scared of me too. Will I know if there is a violent part of me?
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alters are probably the most noticeable when they need time. Mannerisms of the body change, heck he even walks differently.
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Do you laugh at him openly or behind his back when this happens? What do you think when you see this happen?
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I think the client is the conduit for the therapists knowledge, but a therapist with experience will ensure that the primary client is kept informed.
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Is it difficult for you to tell your friend what you see and experience, if/ when he is amnesic? Is he embarrassed when you do this?
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consent this can involve appropriate video and audiotaping in session,
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My first T asked if he could record a session once 'for training'. I said 'yes' thinking he meant sound recording. Unfortunately he meant video record, and when I turned up at the next session there was a big ol' video camera facing me. I know I switched instantly, and I know I was really ****** with him for the whole session, and I know he said at the end that the video thing had not worked well, but I really can't remember what I said or what we talked about. Turns out video cameras are a pretty major trigger. I have no idea why, but Im not stupid and obviously have my suspicions! Looking back it was so obvious my first T knew i had issues with dissociation, but he never brought it up and I did not cotton on until 8 years later with T2. I would so love to get in touch with and quiz T1!
Have you ever video recorded your friend switching, and watched it back with him. What was that like for you? And how did your friend react?
[QUOTE=Permacultural;4846948] as well as something called "conferencing" where everybody agrees to have a period of gathering and communication.
I like the sound of this - although I have no idea how I would orchestrate it. Do you know of any websites that go in to more detail?
Sorry for the many questions - This is soooooo very helpful for me. Thanks for your response
