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Old Dec 30, 2015, 12:17 PM
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Originally Posted by disparaissant View Post
I'm second guessing what I just did. I have someone in my life, and we've been together for a short time, yet have seen each other several days of the week for the past 6 weeks.

He mentioned a few weeks ago, that he almost put "in a relationship", on his Facebook. I told him we should talk more. We have. I've told him the important things I think he should know, and I do feel trust and love. The other night though, my hearing isn't great, and I thought he said he loved me but he was saying he needed to go. I said I love you. He said he loved me too. But now I'm wondering... earlier he said "i think I'm falling for you'... is that different than saying i love you? I don't know. I just put on facebook that I'm in a relationship and then instead of just waiting to see if he's okay with it I skyped him and told him. He seemed shocked a bit. Now I'm wondering if I should have waited for him to make that step.

I don't want to over think all this. It isn't a big deal, right? He said I love you again to me, and later he put it on his page. But did I push him into it?
He has told me that he's my boyfriend... that i have him. But he's also said, we will see how this goes, because that's what I keep saying to him.

Someone tell me if I did a stupid thing .. or if this is normal. What do most people do?
I think that saying "I think I'm falling for you" is someone's way to gauge the other person's reaction without coming right out and saying "I am in love with you." I don't think it matters who takes the step of making it fb official. My boyfriend is the one that did that, but only because I told him that I'd been in relationships before where someone was vague about us being serious so I was only going to call him my "boyfriend" when we were "facebook official." I like things to be really spelled out because I've been in relationships in the past where we have had other people "on the hook" and had bad boundaries. I think he was just too scared to say "I love you" and you did the right thing.
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