My younger sister has always been a very attractive woman. Even in high school she was would do gigs for modeling shoots which went onto early adulthood.

With her good looks, unfortunately, she's been the target of wrong men. Ever since I remember her dating, the guys shes been with have always been jerks with only one thing in mind. Or they've been emotionally abusive types.

Around about 10 years ago, she had her first strong serious relationship with one guy who seemed like a decent person. They broke up after 2 years which was a bit shocking to all of us in the family. But then about 2 years after that, they got back together again but broke up after another 2 years. But for the last 5 years, they've been off and on. Finally 2 years ago, he asked her to marry him, and they were engaged which made my sister very happy. She finally found the one and she was going to be married. Well, the guy broke up with her a month before the wedding. He told her he couldn't commit and didnt want to have a life of being married or having children.

This broke her apart. She obviously took it very hard. So last year we had our first talk since the breakup at xmas at our parents. I asked her how she was coping and she told me she's gotten a lot of support from her friends which has helped. She even went to therapy for a short while. But here is what concerned me : She told me she's done dating. She's done being hurt. Ever man she's met has hurt her. That she cannot take it anymore and she's just done with dating or thinking about ever getting married or having a family. This wasn't something I was expecting but I understood.

Most of the time now she spends is work and with her friends. most of her friends are single as well late 30s or early 40s (she is 40). They're all single women and travel a lot, like beautiful exotic places. I wish I could do the same But she is very happy with her freinds and her travels. I am happy for her, but still, I wish she would take another chance at finding someone. I almost feel like her traveling with her friends is some way of running away from her problems. Maybe I'm wrong thinking that. I just don't know.

So here is my worry - and I know i shouldn't worry - but I think she really deserves the best. She is beautiful inside and outside. She just has met the wrong guys. I just don't want her to give up. I know marriage and family is not for everyone, but I think deep down if it was possible she'd still like to meet the right guy and get married.

So what should i do? I told her what I felt but said it in a way not to offend her. But I was thinking If i was going thru what she went thru, I'd probably feel the same way. I am just mad that life/relationships have defeated her when it comes to finding a strong lasting relationship.

Thank you for reading this.