I stayed married to a guy like that for 33 years. Nice person but totally emotionally not there. He would do things he knew were the right thing to do but there was NEVER any emotional connection. I left & bought a farm 2100 miles away. I was giving him one last chance....driving that distance together in my truck...his comment was "I thought you would tolerate me for the rest of our lives since you tolerated me this long".

The nightmares he put me through because of his inability to behave responsibly especially when it came to finances & when my depression was bad & I needed him to be responsible but he couldn't. I honestly thought he was being emotionally abusive until I read & studied about adult Asperger's. Wow was that enlightening. It explained EVERYTHING I had ever experienced with him. Understanding helped me release the hate I had built up & able to forgive in my heart. It didn't make me want to go back & deal with it ant longer but understanding what I went through with him.... & it described my father perfectly....no wonder why my mother liked my H so much & I didn't. I had promised myself I would NEVER marry anyone like my father....I thought because he was educated that he couldn't be anything like my father....wow was I wrong....but Asperger's described both their personalities .& behavior perfectly.

Tony Attwoods complete guide to Asperger's is a wonderful book for information to either confirm the possibility or not