I have been happily married for over 6 years. I have a really wonderful husband that is always there for me and does everything he can for me. He does meet some of my needs but I have a lot of childhood needs that he cant meet. I thought before I met him that if I got married then all of my needs would be met. My T told me that no one can be everything to anyone. She is right. My T does meet some of my needs. I have a friend that meets some of my needs. So I get my needs met by different people. There are some needs I have that will never be met and I am still having a hard time accepting that. I know its not healthy to have your therapist meet certain childhood needs of yours and I have worked hard to accept that she can't meet all of them and to not rely on her like I used to. I agree with other people that its not good or healthy to rely on one person for all of your needs. I still need my T even though I am married. She understands my mental illness more than my husband and I like having a third party for advice. Being married does give me more support. I lean on my husband more than my T. If I was not married I would be leaning on my T for almost everything. That does not mean that being married is a bandage. Nothing is. I know that is hard to accept. I am still trying to accept that. Why life so hard?

I dont mean for my response to sound harsh or mean. Its just the reality of having needs that were not met in your childhood. It sucks.