You have never answered the questions asked of you in your other posts.....like....
What caused his previous marriages to fail?
Have you ever talked to those woman who have had previous relationships with him to find out if he was really that good person you keep imagining him to be?
Are you that desperate to have someone to care for you that you keep trying to rationalize his abuse toward you?
How long have you been married to him...did I read you got married just last summer?
Just because you knew him when yiubwereb13 & 15, why did you allow yourself to be infatuated with him the same way you were as a child?
(I had a guy from my high school that wrote me last year that he had a crush on me when we were in high school & I actually had wished he would notice me back then too.....but we grow up & we are who we are NOW not back then....that was sweet but it means ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in reality)

Just curios myself....
Why do you have such low self esteme that you tolerate ANYONE treating you this way?
What are you planning on doing with your psychology BA once you get it?

Your kids aren't even his kids so you need to be protecting your children from him & they don't need to be living in an environment that is abusive especially your autistic daughter. You don't have a marriage to save....you have lives to protect. You made a bad choice marrying someone you really didn't even know other than from a 13 year old crush...doesn't sound like there was any wisdom that went into your decision to get married.....more like wishful thinking.